Second chances are what makes us human


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Second chances are what makes us human
By Zan Azlee

Rehabilitation instead of capital punishment. That was the issue I wrote about in my column last week and it was in response to the Bali 9 execution.

The piece received fairly interesting responses from the readers. It seems that most Malaysians (and I’m only extrapolating here) are in favour of capital punishment.

However, I am not swayed and still adamant that rehabilitation is the way to go rather than sentencing someone to death or dismembering their limbs.

This week I would like raise the same issue, but this time using a different case study. And so comes the case of the convicted Malaysian paedophile Nur Fitri Azmeer Nordin.

Convicted and sentenced to five years in prison in the United Kingdom, Nur Fitri’s case has been on the top section of news websites all across the country.

There was this big debate between politicians, activists and members of the normal public on whether he should be given a second chance or not.

Some say he should be brought back to the country and be given a chance to finish his studies because he is an intelligent student. Some say it would be better for him to just stay in prison.

As a father to a little girl, I am disgusted just like everyone else with the thoughts and intentions of paedophiles and I can definitely understand the outrage and anger against people like these.

But, I also strongly believe that everyone deserves a second chance and the challenge is to punish them enough so that there will be remorse, then rehabilitation so they can reenter society.

Everybody makes mistakes and although we need to realise that there are consequence and we need to pay for the mistakes we make, we also deserve the chance for reform.

And when I say that everyone makes mistakes, I do mean everyone, including those who are given the authority and are responsible for judging and sentencing.

So there should always be an avenue for review and exoneration before it’s too late. And it would definitely be too late once someone has been executed or had limbs cut off.

Remember that it is always better to treat the disease than the symptoms and just by eliminating people who do wrong doesn’t eliminate the cause as to why they did wrong in the first place.

But at the end of the day, I am saying this from the perspective of an observer. Would my perspective be different if I or a loved one was a victim?

Would an eye for an eye then be justified? Would it mean that I would want the perpetrator to be killed, maimed or even incarcerated for life? Would it be so easy to forgive?

[This article originally appeared at The Malaysian Insider]

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2 responses to “Second chances are what makes us human

  1. I agree that everyone deserves a second chance.
    That being said, the perpetrator do still need to serve his sentence AND be given help – guidance and support.
    What he did and kept on doing have consequences. One of it is that there are victims that will grow up with what was done to them. I pray that these victims will have the courage to tell someone what happened to them and get THEIR guidance and support.

    We also must remember there maybe victims of his (and other victims of sexual abuse as a child) that might just be keeping quiet and watching what will happen to him, what the authorities will decide to do to him will give huge impact to these victims. Giving him a chance to finish his study seems.. well.. seems to tell that acting on your pedophilia urges is okay.

    The outrage comes from the fact that this issue seems to be equated with any other porn watching, and that it seems trivial. An adult porn star (I am not disregarding those who were forced or tricked into the industry) gets paid to do what they are doing, while a small kid in a sexual video does not.

    He deserves second chance, just let him pay his due.

    …and when I make my mistake(s) I shall pay my due.

    PS: For all we know, to Nur Fitri, what ever he is doing is the “eye-for-an-eye” for him. He probably was a victim himself, or probably not. So NO, (at least) I don’t want an eye for an eye. I want the cycle to end.

    Thank you for sharing this post.

    Like

  2. I agree that everyone deserves a second chance.
    That being said, the perpetrator do still need to serve his sentence AND be given help – guidance and support.
    What he did and kept on doing have consequences. One of it is that there are victims that will grow up with what was done to them. I pray that the victims will have the courage to tell someone what happened to them and get THEIR guidance and support.

    We also must remember there maybe victims of his (and other victims of sexual abuse as a child) that might just be keeping quiet and watching what will happen to him, what the authorities will decide to do to him will give huge impact to these victims. Giving him a chance to finish his study seems.. well.. seems to tell that acting on your pedophilia urges is okay.

    The outrage comes from the fact that this issue seems to be equated with any other porn watching, and that it seems trivial. An adult porn star (I am not disregarding those who were forced or tricked into the industry) gets paid to do what they are doing, while a small kid in a sexual video does not.

    He deserves second chance, just let him pay his due.

    …and when I make my mistake(s) I shall pay my due.

    PS: For all we know, to Nur Fitri, what ever he is doing is the “eye-for-an-eye” for him. He probably was a victim himself, or probably not. So NO, (at least) I don’t want an eye for an eye. I want the cycle to end.

    Thank you for sharing this post.

    Like

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