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The Fat Bidin Film Club (Ep 24) – Strangerland

The Fat Bidin Film Club (Ep 24) – Strangerland

Zan and Aizyl talk about all the sex in the Australian independent film Strangerland starring Nicole Kidman, Joseph Fiennes and Hugo Weaving. It’s all about the sex folks! (How’s that for click-bait?)

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Are women just sex toys and baby-making machines?



Are women just sex toys and baby-making machines?
By Zan Azlee

Women seem to be getting a hard time recently in Malaysia with different comments being made by different Cabinet ministers that seem to be very hard to digest in this day and age.

The thing that made it worse is the fact that these comments that are deprecating of women were actually made by ministers who themselves are women.

And you would think that the increase in representation of women in the government would actually mean that their interest and welfare would be better served.

Several weeks ago, we had the Women, Family and Community Development Minister, Datuk Seri Rohani Abdul Karim, saying that women should have more babies.

That is all well and good to encourage people to build families. But she also said that couples should have more babies and not be too concerned about leading a good quality life.

Stop and think about it. Rohani is the Minister for Women, Family and Community Development. And she wants Malaysians to not focus on quality of life.

I think my mother, Sophia Yusof, would do better justice holding that Cabinet portfolio. She used to tell me the reason why she decided not to have too many children.

“I would rather have a few children who I can give as much as attention to as possible than so many who who would be neglected,” she said.

She and my father made sure that my brothers and I had the best opportunity for education, ate nutritious food, had the most enjoyable childhood, and fed our souls with regular holidays.

They knew that having only three kids (sure, many would consider this a large number today!) would be ideal with what best they could afford to make sure we had the highest quality of life.

This would be opposed to having, say, five or six children and just feeding them rice and soy sauce everyday and not enriching their lives more because it would be out of their reach to do so.

With the cost of living now increasing at a tremendous rate in a negative correlation with the average household income, I think I would rather follow my mother’s advice.

Then, we also have another women minister, Nancy Shukri, from the Prime Minister’s Department, who says that the government has no plans to criminalise marital rape.

Apparently, once you enter a marriage, your husband can have sex with you anytime he wants whether you like it or not and it wouldn’t be a crime to do so.

She does stress that, under Section 375A of the Penal Code, it is still an offence for a husband to hurt his wife for the purpose of having intercourse and this should suffice to protect women.

This is such a loose definition of marital rape that there might as well not even be a Section 375A of the Penal Code (to think of it, there really is no definition of marital rape!).

So whose interests and well-being are these women ministers serving? This is a big disappointment in the fight for gender equality.

And so I would like to say to the these women ministers, it’s time to buck up or ship out!

[This article originally appeared at The Malaysian Insider]

Malaysian producers must stop making gender discriminating films



Malaysian producers must stop making gender discriminating films
By Zan Azlee

I don’t allow my daughter to watch a majority of Malay dramas and movies because   I think they are a bad influence for her as a girl and as a human being in general.

She is at a very impressionable age right now and I don’t want her thinking and perspective on life to be tainted by what she would see on the screen or television.

This is something that I think and discuss about with my family and friends and overall, they all agree that this is the right decision to take.

Let me explain using this simple but true example.

“Abah, why is everyone always shouting and fighting on TV,” asked the daughter of a very close family friend.

“Let’s turn off the television, okay?” responded her father.

I don’t like the fact that so many Malay dramas  like to portray internal family fighting, divorce, rape, degradation of women and the worshipping of material wealth .

Recently, the movie Suami Aku Ustaz receive a loud bashing in the media for apparently being very degrading to women and even seems to condone paedophilia.

I spoke to sex educator, June Low, who had publicly criticised the movie on her Facebook page. Her posting was picked up widely by the media.

She explains that the movie tells the story of a young girl in secondary school who is forced to marry her cousin, an ustaz, because her parents will be going to Mekah for sometime.

“She is 17 years old and loudly expresses her unwillingness to marry. But she has to anyway and I have a problem with that,” said June.

“It shows child marriage in a positive and favourable light when in actuality it is illegal.”

And I have to agree with her because I feel that Malaysia just has too many cases where adults commit rape against underage children and get away with it.

What is despicable is the that they get away with it because the authorities, and even the children’s guardians, seem to think that the best solution is to get them married.

And religion is always used as an excuse because, apparently, once they a married, they would no longer be committing a sin by having sex out of wedlock.

To hell with the fact that the underage child forced to get married will  forever be mentally tortured and have her whole life stunted, a decision not of her making.

Veteran entertainment journalist and Astro AWANI  digital editor, Muzaffar Mustapa, explained that this is a recurring problem in the Malaysian mainstream industry.

“The quality of a film no longer plays a role. The box office takings will dictate the success of a film. And that formula will just continued to be recycled,” he said.

And this is what I’m worried about because Malaysia will never come out of this archaic thinking that is actually decaying the progress of our society.

“You know what would be a good idea for a movie? If it told the story of a strong and independent woman trying to make her way in a society that wants her to become the total opposite,” said June.

Now that would be a movie I would gladly allow my daughter to watch.

[This article was originally published at English.AstroAwani.Com]

And by the way, my brother and I also did a podcast about this with June Low. Check it out yo!


The Fat Bidin Film Club (Ep 9) – Suami Aku Ustaz

The Fat Bidin Film Club (Ep 9) – Suami Aku Ustaz

It’s amazing how the Malaysian mainstream film industry constantly portrays women in films. We speak with sex and gender expert, June Low, who recently went public with her opinion that the film ‘Suami Aku Ustaz’ degrades women and is peppered with hints of paedophilia.


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Let’s save the camel!

zan and a camel


Let’s save the camel!
By Zan Azlee

The camel just so happens to be my favourite animal. Why is it my favourite? It’s because of all it’s contributions to mankind.

The camel is considered the ship of the desert because it can travel long distances without water in harsh, hot and dry environments.

It can carry enormous amounts of weight, up to 450 kilogrammes, almost double it’s average weight and moves at a steady pace of around 5 kilometres an hour.

The hump or humps a camel has is fatty tissue that allows it to go for long periods without food. All it does is burn the fat from the hump for energy.

Although it is a domesticated animal and has worked for man for centuries, it still is a stubborn and independent creature that has a mind of it’s own.

The camel has large teeth that it uses as a weapon by biting people or other animals it doesn’t like. It has such an attitude that it is even known to spit at people.

The camel is a beautiful creature too, slender and tall, thick and furry, with large round eyes protected by long eyelashes and small ears nicely at the back the head.

And so I am writing this week’s column with much concern. You see, I am a lover of wildlife and a big advocate for the preservation and protection of the world’s creatures.

Newsflash, we human beings aren’t the only ones who are living on this planet. But somehow, we just seem to think that we own it and we do a lot of irresponsible things.

And because of that, we feel guilty enough that we start all kinds of campaigns that call for the support of preserving wildlife, like save the whales, save the tigers, save the rhinos, etc.

So now to my original concern for writing this week, and that is to help create a campaign as well, but for a specific animal of my choice.

A campaign to save an animal that is fast becoming vulnerable and if nothing is done, it could end up endangered or even worse, extinct.

I am hereby taking this opportunity to initiate a worldwide campaign to call for a stop to the despicable act of having sex on the back of camels.

The camel can take a lot of abuse because it is tough. Unfortunately, all it’s toughness is no match for one kind of abuse – people having sex on its back.

A camel has pride and when people start having sex on it’s back, it is degrading and humiliating for the camel that it can cause irreversible psychological scars.

So I implore the readers out there to take up this cause. Come and join me on this mission of saying ‘Stop having sex on the back of camels!’.

[This article originally appeared at English.AstroAwani.Com]